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The No Contact Session · private · 60 minutes

In no contact and don't know if it's a pause or an ending?

I went three months without a word from my avoidant partner. He told me later he had hoped I would break first. This is the hour for the week you are in right now: what is likely happening on his side, what the signs mean, and what you do next, written down.

Apply for a session$150, 60 minutes. Nothing is charged until you book.

What we do in the hour

  1. 10 minWhere you are: how long it has been, how it ended, what they have done since. From your intake, so we do not spend the hour on background.
  2. 20 minTheir side. What no contact does to an avoidant nervous system week by week, and where they probably are in it right now. Whether what you are seeing, the views, the likes, the mutual friend, is a bid or a habit.
  3. 20 minYour side. The protest behaviour that is keeping you activated, and what actually regulates you in the silence. The rule for if they message, and the rule for if they do not.
  4. 10 minThe next 14 days, written down. One page. What you will do, what you will not do, and what the two weeks are for.

This is for you if

  • They asked for space, or went quiet, and you do not know if it is a pause or an ending
  • The signs have started, views, likes, a like from their friend, but the message has not
  • You are writing texts you do not send, and you are not sure how long you can keep not sending them
  • It was not your decision and you never got the conversation
  • You want to use this time on yourself and you do not know what that means in practice

Length and price

$150 for 60 minutes, online

Paid when you book, after your application is accepted. Nothing is charged while it is being read, and if it is not a fit you are not charged at all.

How many sessions you need is individual. Some people need one hour to stop guessing. Others come back when the other person reaches out, to plan that conversation, and again after it. We decide that together after the first hour, never before.

How it runs

  • Online by video call, wherever you are
  • Written intake before we meet, so the hour is not spent on background
  • Focused entirely on your situation: the last messages, what they did, what you did
  • You leave with a written plan for the next 14 days, not just something to think about

What happens after you apply

No hard sell, no automatic booking page

  1. 01

    You apply

    A short written application about your situation and what you are hoping for. It takes about ten minutes and commits you to nothing.

  2. 02

    Saska reads it herself

    Every application is read personally, usually within 48 hours. If it is not a fit, because what you need is therapy, crisis support or something else entirely, she will tell you honestly and point you somewhere better.

  3. 03

    You receive a private booking link

    If it is a fit, you get her availability and the terms in writing. You pick a time, pay the $150 securely by card at that moment, and it is confirmed. No account to create, nothing to log in to.

Apply

Tell me what is going on.

A few questions about your situation and what you would want to be different. It takes about ten minutes, it is free, and it commits you to nothing.

I read every one myself, and you will hear back either way.

What you write here is private. It is stored securely, read only by me, and never published, not as a testimonial, not as content, not anywhere.

As much or as little as you want. Honest is more useful than tidy.

“Not sure” is a completely acceptable answer.

Free to apply. No payment now, and no obligation either way.

What coaching can help with

  • Understanding the pattern you are caught in, and your part of it
  • Regulating the spiral so you stop acting from panic
  • Communicating a need without it becoming pressure
  • Deciding whether to stay, and how to know
  • Navigating no contact without it becoming a waiting game

What coaching cannot provide

  • Therapy, diagnosis or treatment of any mental health condition
  • Crisis or emergency support
  • A guarantee that a specific person will return or change
  • Support in an abusive or controlling relationship. That needs specialist help

Coaching sits comfortably alongside therapy, and many people do both. If you are in crisis or at risk of harm, please contact your local emergency service or a qualified clinician. Read the full scope statement here.

If the silence is the pattern and not a one-off, the four-week group, The Secure Shift, works on your side of it over time. And if you would rather do this fortnight with other people in the same silence, No Contact, Their Side is the two-week group version of this session.

Questions

Before you apply

Will you tell me whether they are coming back?

No, and be careful of anyone who says they can. What I can do is read their behaviour in attachment terms rather than hope terms, so you stop guessing, and give you a plan that works whether they come back or not.

Is this a strategy to make them reach out?

No. If what you want is a technique to make a specific person return, this is not for you and I will say so when I read your application.

Why an application instead of a booking page?

Because this work does not help everyone, and it should not be sold to everyone. The application lets Saska decline the situations she cannot help with, and give proper attention to the ones she can.

How do I pay?

By card, at the moment you choose your time. Your private booking link takes payment through Stripe as part of confirming the slot. You do not need to create an account anywhere, and this website never sees or stores your card details.

What if I need to reschedule?

Give at least 48 hours' notice using the link in your booking confirmation and we will find another time, at no extra cost. Below that, or a missed session without notice, the session is used.