Free resources
Something clearer than “just stop overthinking”.
Start with The Spiral Stopper. It is free, it is short, and it is built for the exact hour you usually need it.
The Spiral Stopper
For the hours when the silence is loudest
They have gone quiet. You have read the last message eleven times. You know reaching out will not help and you are going to do it anyway.
The Spiral Stopper gives you something to do instead — a short, practical sequence for what to do with your hands, your phone and your head until the urgency passes.
- Catch the spiral in the first few minutes, not the third hour
- A concrete alternative to sending the message
- Language for what you are feeling, so it stops being formless dread
Where should I send it?
Arrives immediately, straight to your inbox.
You will also get Secure Notes — occasional emails on the anxious-avoidant pattern, written the same way as everything else here. Unsubscribe any time, no hard feelings.
Coming next
More free resources are being written
Subscribers get these first, as they are finished.
- An anxious-avoidant cycle assessment
- A no-contact emotional reset
- Secure communication scripts
- A boundary-setting workbook